For years I’ve been writing about how Facebook and Messenger should build an offline availability indicator for finding out who’s free to spend time with in person. Finding a significant other is the source of some of the most meaningful interactions you’ll ever have.
And now when we feel lonely, when we might have sought in-person companionship, we have phones full of feeds, memes and games to keep us company.Facebook’s made it easier than ever to “feel connected,” endlessly scrolling through friends’ photos, while actually allowing us to isolate ourselves. But to date, the feature’s largely been trapped in dating apps that match you with randos or that not everyone wants to be on. You like them, they like you, you both find out and get connected.Facebook shouldn’t blast you with tons of notifications teasing that someone likes you.
It shouldn’t try to get you to guess who it was from a short-list of people.
Its latest attempt is a ham-handed Meetups feature.
It surfaces big groups of friends saying some might want to hang out with you, and asking if you’re interested.
Some will surely cringe at the idea of Facebook getting more deeply involved with our romantic lives.
Others might think it’s redundant with Pokes, walls, messages and other ways to connect, even though those are either unclear signals or lack the privacy and protection against unwanted advances of double opt-in.
Secularization and the rise of science mean fewer people are connected through places of worship.