I spent too much time blindly follow good-intentioned advice and not thinking for myself early on when dating online.
So better to listen to your gut and break any “rules” (such as keeping the email short) when you think it would work to your favor.
This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.
For this discussion refers to your first message in online dating.
This will include whatever method the service you are using allows you to write a message to another member.
As I discuss in my free online dating guide, successful online dating relies in part on making great first impressions.
Whether the first impression is in the photos you select for your profile, how you describe yourself, or the first email you write, taking time to make the best first impression is important.
There are several reasons I’m for short first emails.
With online dating, the first message can make or break your chances of a successful first date.For example, in the Profile 3, creating an invitation to have a drink that looked like a travel itinerary might work well if she had mentioned enjoying creativity or if her profile was very creative.Sometimes we can get so caught up in following “rules” that our online dating first messages don’t end up reflecting us very well and…I would write overly long and, in my head, witty emails that very rarely received responses. My rule here is very simple: keep your first email very short.Once, I wrote no less than two pages based on a girl’s heading to her profile. I thought I was making conversation but all I was making was a girl scared. Give anything longer than three sentences a good, hard look before sending.It is also worth noting that most often discuss this from the point of view of a man contacting a woman, since that was my experience, but my hope is that the thoughts here are helpful to anyone.