I read once, there are a few milestones in relationships, and generally when you do break up, it's at these milestonesat about 3 months - you decide whether you want to invest time in the personat about 6 months - you've determined whether you are really compatible.somewhere between 18 months to 2 years - you start thinking long term. Any guy I've dated over 6 months lasted over 2 years. During his last semester in college one of his family members commented to me that she expected and was soooo looking forward to our nuptials next in the near future. This guy had some idiosyncrasies which got on my nerves but I didn't have to live with him so it was all good.But after that comment I found myself wondering WTH I was doing in an exclusive relationship with someone I KNEW I did not want to marry or even live with and see how it goes.
I guess we were more like FWBs but there was no such term back then.
My recommendation would not to get hung up about other peoples' hangups, rules, well-meant advice, etc. it's like watching a toddler trying to force that square peg into that round hole and beating it and throwing a fit and it still doesn't work..try to reason with them and they say no.... These rules of thumb are not so applicable as are your social abilities and perceptions.
I don't think relationships end or terminate based on time. And...you could come in on Saturday..and Sunday too...would be greeeaaate. I find myself wondering "If this is going to move forward, I need to see some action/commitment or I'm out of here". The whole '6 month' thing MAY just be true for me - or it's just that I know what I want, I'm getting older and I feel the time marching on, and I want to get the show on the road. If we hit 7, and nothing has happened (the 'M' word has been 'mentioned'...) - then I may just havta 'get gone'. if you date without expectations and you see you are getting along and things just feel natural I would say six months would tell you if there were things you couldn't deal with... forcing the relationship to fit, no matter how many times you've argued.... In my case i have to be careful because i WANT to believe people are good and have been taken advantage of with that.
It's basically if both parties are getting what they want. BUT, I dont think you truely know someone for 1yr 1/2. I know this sounds weird, but I have to see my man mad before I feel comfortable with him.... i think the true validity in the OP's question lies in the fact that many people handle the beginning of a relationship differently with regards to how much time they spend together at first-is it just "dates" or is it living together for instance, IMO would have to agree with the six-months rule of thumb, generally. Love him dearly, but I want to find someone to spend every night with - happily - under the same roof. when you set your hat on someone and no matter what you have to make this rule fit this relationship because to hell and high water you've got to have that person.... I think the best way to see a person is to see them relate to their family and watch how the family treats other family members.
Over time each person changes (or decides to speak up about what they want). LOL You can tell a lot by watching how a person handles themselves in an altercation. If they are mean to each other they'll probably be mean to you.
or how they treat waiters/waitresses."There's a 6 month rule? Sure do wish there was a "science" to summing up people sure would be a lot safer.
You share the same values and this is indeed your forever partner and one way to recognize that for the world is through marriage.” Theresa adds that deep down this is something Amy or Chris could have wanted and that was important enough that this was the time.
“Some people just decide and it’s stable and permanent and positive and for their own emotional security,” she adds.
“Rebound relationships actually work, they can be the healthiest ones because you often know more clearly what you want, rebound relationships have a bad rap but can be the best things because you have a clearer sense of who you are and what you want.” While common wisdom advises against rebound relationships because a relationship begun too soon might be an indulgent distraction that prevents individuals from properly dealing with the break-up of the earlier relationship, they can prove surprisingly healthy, Theresa says.
“Less time between a break-up and a new relationship generally predicts greater well-being, higher self-esteem, and more respect for a new partner…Individuals who tend to be emotionally stable were actually more likely to have a shorter amount of time between a relationship’s end and a new one’s beginning.” Relationship expert Andrea Syrtash says that there's no one formula for everyone. It takes time and experience to know someone's true character and our brains literally change after the initial rush of romantic love," she says, adding, "That said, Amy is 36 and has likely dated a lot and knows what she wants!
And, at her age, she may have fertility on her mind...