I found this out after he started to write something in a search engine on his laptop when I was sitting next to him, which brought up his history in the search bar and I asked “do you still look at …(dating website)”.
At first, he replied that he has a couple of times, and then when I was unsure whether he was being honest, I asked again and he then said a couple of times a week.
When you find your boyfriend is still on a dating site, you have two choices really.
You can confront him or you can downgrade him and pull back from the relationship.
This may also be a sign to you that you are a lot more invested into him than he is into you.
After all, you wouldn’t dream of still being on a dating site would you? Is he really your boyfriend or has your imagination carried you away in this relationship?
Above all stay calm and relaxed in your Feminine energy and don’t fly off the handle and lose control of your emotions. So observe, observe and adjust your investment to his.
Katarina always says to be always on the same page as him at all time.
He said that he only looks at it to use the function where he can look through it and he can click on “yes” or “no” (i.e. He says that he always clicks on “no” even if they’re good looking.
He reassured me that he was not going on there to look for girls, but just to look at their pictures.
It’s not always that they don’t want to be with you.
It’s more that they aren’t moving along at the same pace you are, so they juggle until they can make up their minds. This will only put him on the defense and he very well may play the blame shifting game as in make you feel like crap for snooping in the first place.
I told him how it really upset me and how disrespectful I found it, especially as it was a dating website.