So in a nutshell: You have to spend a ton of time messaging women online to even get 1 of the above mentioned mistakes so your response rate sucks, requiring you to send out more messages. It’s no wonder you’re stuck in a perpetual loop of frustration, tedium and loneliness.
As Aziz Ansari noted in his book, Modern Romance, men spend way too much time focusing on the “online” part of online dating.Scrolling through profiles, doggedly churning out message after message to the attractive women they want to date. The bad news is the average guy has to send out a whopping 114 messages to be guaranteed 1 response.Plus, predicting long-term compatibility is almost impossible because success in a relationship is in part determined by how a couple deals with life’s stresses, both big and small. Even the slightest misstep can destroy your chances, and you’re making a number of mistakes.The hotter a woman is, the more messages she receives – and the pickier she has to become.The profile writing, the photo selection, the tedious back and forth messaging. So that’s solution #1: Bring in an online dating expert.
For all you DIY’ers out there who don’t mind spending that 12 hours a week on dating sites and apps, solution #2 is this: Minimize the time you spend online while maximizing the number of dates you get. Get ready to take some notes…If you want to save time and frustration, focus your efforts on the sites and apps that best fit your circumstances.You probably spend countless hours every week clicking through profiles and messaging attractive women on dating sites and apps.You get a response every now and again, but rarely from anyone you actually want to date.Never has the old adage “You never get a second chance to make a first impression” been so important.If you’re not instantly catching her eye in a good way, she’s swiping left. Whether she’s looking for a husband or a one-night stand, she wants some sort of reassurance you’re taking online dating seriously.There’s diamonds to be found, but you’ve got to put in some work to unearth them.