So, I signed up using my real name as my username, (which is apparently frowned upon but I clearly didn’t care…), filled out my profile in a quick haste, and threw up some pictures. …or antagonistic to win over my attention, (like this guy)……or just trying to spark up a conversation (like this guy)…
Over the years, I’ve just kind of figured it’s been because I’ve always been so positive about it.
I still wondered, though, how no guy has ever cared about my bag. A lovely girlfriend of mine, new to the Toronto dating scene, decided to sign up for the free online dating site, OKCupid.
Some would ask me more details about how I got my ostomy, and then ask for my number.
Others simply sent a messages saying they had learned something new, hoping to spark up some conversation.
So, friends, the moral of this story is that we should all be comfortable in ourselves no matter what we think is wrong with us.
I was wondering has anyone found a way of keeping that darn bag out of the way when they are having on of thier most intimate moments? From things I have read on this site the answer is no.
It has been a LONG time since I was last involved in the dating scene as my marriage of twenty years just imploded.
I recently began talking to a young man online who asked for my phone number.
(Don’t worry, I responded with a gracious reply, thanking him for checking out the website.) I often get asked if I’ve ever had a problem dating with an ostomy. Having an ostomy had never once gotten in the way of forming relationships at all.
In fact, I used to hope that it would be a filtering device to keep the jerks at bay… Anyhow, I have had such luck in the dating scene with an ostomy that I began to wonder why.
He said, if a woman is going to complain and feel badly about herself because of how much she weighs, a guy isn’t going to want to date her.