We had already had the sad emotional conversation when we decided to go on the break… If a guy seems cold and aloof during break time, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care.
I did the break thing with a girlfriend and she accused me of being cold because I didn’t want to get into deep emotional discussions about the relationship.
I wasn’t trying to be cold, I just wanted to focus on me.
Everything was going great (so I thought), then he broke it off saying he had become so emotionally dependent on me, he lost sight of who he was.
I think with any other person this would be considered a “break” and not a “breakup” but he doesn’t believe in breaks.
Being on a break is different for men and women because men and women are very different when it comes to relationships in general… The conversation I was having with my friend got so interesting and enlightening, I asked him to elaborate further on the subject and took our exchange and turned it into an entire article. Whenever a guy says he wants a “break” or some time to just “chill for a bit,” it usually means he’s feeling stressed or overwhelmed by the relationship and needs time to work things out on his own.
Even if the problems aren’t overt, he may be feeling unhinged about some aspect of the relationship, oftentimes it’s by the fact that the relationship is getting more serious.Don’t let yourself get walked on and don’t let him string you along…he wants that…it makes him feel secure…and it does nothing but prolong your hurt in the process. In the meantime, go about your life and try to enjoy it without him in it.This is especially true if you stay in touch over this break and continue to see each-other, and maybe even hook up, from time to time. Keep your options open (you don’t necessarily have to go on dates with other guys, but stay open to the possibility of another guy being the right one for you) and don’t make the break all about him, you are an equal in the relationship and also deserve to take time to figure out what you want and need. If either you or he decides to pull the plug for good, try and make it a clean break.Instead, use that time to focus on other areas of your life. Confidence is a huge turn on for a guy and whether you’re a guy or a girl, you always want what you can’t have.Have confidence that even if this relationship doesn’t work out, you will find another that will. If he feels sure that you’ll be there whenever he’s ready to come back, he can take all the time he needs.Even though you probably have his number memorized, delete it.